Win With Confidence
Do you ever say, “when I have enough confidence, I’ll . . .”
What if you had the confidence, what would you do? Would you be ready to commit to achieving your goal? What conversation can not wait? What would be next?
Work Your Confidence Muscle
I know that confidence is like a muscle: the more you use it, the stronger it gets. Every time you take an action that requires confidence, the muscle gets stronger. Are you afraid to speak at your industry conference? Would you rather follow others than be a better leader during your company meeting? Regardless of the outcome, you may need to “act as if” and then “do it.” But most of all, believe in your ability to succeed.
Cultivating your self confidence can be learned, practiced and mastered just like any other skill.
Here’s How to Win with Confidence
- Stay away from negativity and add the positivity. Surround yourself with an inner circle of family and friends who celebrate your wins and boost your confidence. Minimize your association with negative people. Stop focusing on the problems in your life and instead start focusing on solutions and making positive changes. Give yourself a boost of positive enthusiasm in all endeavors.
- Take the time to speak slowly and clearly. Research has proved that those who take the time to speak slowly and clearly feel more self-confidence and appear more self-confident to others. A change in your body language; like smiling, making good eye contact and good posture gives others an impression that you are a confident person.
- Get rid of the negative voices in your head. If you are finding fault or saying “you’re not good enough”, “smart enough”, etc. – that’s your inner critic. When your inner critic starts speaking — immediately dismiss it and replace with positive affirmations or truths such as “I am smart, I am resilient, I am determined, I believe in myself.”
- Be prepared. Continue to learn everything about your profession, job and trends. Knowledge and preparation are keys to self-confidence. And self-confidence is a key to success.
- When all else fails, create a great list. Life is full of challenges and even the best leaders experience a dip in confidence. Do this exercise: Write all of the things in your life that you are thankful for, and another list of all your accomplishments. Next, post your list on your office wall, or frame it on your desk so you can easily be reminded of your remarkable life.
Change Your World
Ultimately, when you improve the quality of the conversation you have with yourself — you change your world. Self-confident people are admired by others and inspire confidence in others. That’s a win in your personal leadership, too.
What do you think? What are your wins in confidence as a leader?